Dear Abby: She’s refusing to have a gorgeous wedding like her bridezilla sister’s

DEAR ABBY My oldest daughter Alexa is emerging my heart Related Articles Dear Abby We thought we were talking privately but it was caught on her doorbell video Dear Abby Is it wrong of me to be stashing away money so I can leave Dear Abby Do I have to change my eating habits when I m in residents Dear Abby My mom wants me to train my toddler in certain tasks It s not going to happen Dear Abby Her air freshener habit has led to an unexpected concern She s engaged to a nice enough man she s been with for five years but she has cast aside every single wedding tradition that s critical to us Alexa won t wear an engagement ring because diamonds are ugly and not politically correct She has refused to have either an engagement party or a bridal shower Because they are forgoing a registry my friends have no idea what to get them for wedding gifts Turns out none of my friends are invited to the wedding only the couple s friends and family She also refuses to have a bridal party so her sisters are hurt because they sought to be bridesmaids I was so looking forward to shopping with her for her bridal gown but she doesn t want to wear one She bought a plain white dress instead There will be no reception just champagne and wedding cake in the basement of the church There s no wedding dinner not even appetizers and no wedding toasts There won t be a first dance because there s no band Worst of all her father can t walk her down the aisle because in her words she s not property to be given away I understand that she watched her younger sister turn into a bridezilla but her sister did have a gorgeous wedding that we paid for We re willing to pay for hers too but she and her fiance are refusing to do anything we want They are both doctors and can pay for whatever they want Her father is ready to stay home rather than be ignored and I m not sure I want to be there either How do we manage this without alienating our daughter RUINED WEDDING IN NEW YORK DEAR RUINED WEDDING You and your husband handle this by reminding yourselves that Alexa s wedding is hers not yours You have already had two weddings your own and your younger daughter s Comfort yourselves with the knowledge that you and your husband can spend the money you would have blown on this shindig on a luxury vacation for yourselves DEAR ABBY What do you think about particular relatives who sought to come and stay with us while they relocated to our state and brought a handgun and ammunition into our home without our knowledge We have a -year-old daughter They don t think they did anything wrong and claim they were not obligated to inform us because it was locked and the ammunition was stored apart from it THREATENED IN OREGON Related Articles Asking Eric I was demoted and I don t know how to deal with the whispers Harriette Cole My sister won t call me back and I have no idea what s wrong Miss Manners I don t like what strangers say about my kids and my husband Dear Abby We thought we were talking privately but it was caught on her doorbell video Asking Eric I signed a prenup and now I m resenting this situation DEAR THREATENED From what you have written your relatives practice gun safety Their weapon is locked and the ammunition is stored separately I will assume that your child did not find or handle their weapon That stated no one has the right to bring a gun into someone else s home without their permission If your relatives can t instantly find other lodging they should check what the Oregon gun laws are and consider storing their weapon away from your house in the trunk of their conveyance Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA