Dear Abby: Daughter & partner can’t share bed at parent’s

Dear Abby I haven t had a holiday with my grown daughter Charly since she left the state years ago When she came out as a lesbian I wasn t very accepting and didn t handle it well I have since apologized Charly and her partner refuse to visit here unless I allow them to share the same bed in my house I say they can t tell me what to do in my own home just as I can t tell them what to do in theirs I stayed with them once and they slept in the same bed Now they no longer invite me to stay there Charly notified me her partner is uncomfortable with anyone staying there I haven t spoken to my daughter about their relationship in multiple years My heart is broken I don t get any holidays with them but her partner s parents are there every year and live in the next neighborhood I don t understand Any suggestions Missing Her in Texas Dear Missing Her I do have one If the three of you can decide to be civil with each other during a visit tell your daughter you would be willing to stay in a hotel while you re there Frankly it might be more assured for everyone if they agree to it Dear Abby I was married for years We are divorced and have no contact Divorce was a good choice Now two years later I am in love with a new man whom I ll call Grayson We have been together for four months and things are going really well Grayson is gentle and loving in every respect He s the only man who has never raised his hand to me We do a lot together and never argue We both work We have talked about marriage I have met his family and I was easily accepted Is this fate destiny and should I say yes Struggling With Loving a Man Dear Struggling Because you have a history of choosing men who have raised a hand to you let me advise you that you and Grayson are in the honeymoon phase of your relationship It s a little early to be talking about marriage Whether this is fate or destiny I can t opine As to whether you should say yes assuming he has proposed you would be wise to have a LONG engagement to be absolutely sure that gentle loving Grayson is exactly who he seems to be Dear Abby I had been growing feelings for my co-worker boss I assumed those feelings may have been reciprocated Then I was fired because of a conflict with another co-worker This happened more than a month ago I still think about the guy from time to time I would like to reach out and let him know without it being embarrassing or seeming creepy but I m not sure how I really care about him Former Employee in Connecticut Dear Former Employee If your feelings for your former boss had been reciprocated he would be reaching out to you which hasn t happened That commented if you d like another conversation with him contact him and ask if he s willing to be a job reference if he s contacted by any prospective employers Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA